Funerals. There are no rules.
Well technically there is one. But I bet you thought there are more?
The only rule there is, the only thing that has to happen when a person dies, is that there has to be a burial or a cremation.
Seriously, everything else is optional.
You don't have to have the funeral at the crematorium or the cemetery. You can hold a funeral ceremony anywhere you choose. At home, in the garden, at a football stadium, a library, an art gallery and so on and so forth.
If you can get permission from whoever owns the place, you can have a funeral service there.
You don't have to have a priest or celebrant. Though they are useful folk. Anyone can lead a funeral ceremony. Seriously, anyone. Do it together, as a family, as a community.
You don't have to use a funeral director, though again, useful folk. You can take care of the dead person yourself, at home and you can even arrange the burial or cremation yourself. If that feels to much then get help from the funeral directors, but you don't have to. Some will even help you to do something in between the two.
You don't have to have the coffin, the cars, the flowers, the hymns. You don't have to have any of it.
Say goodbye when, where and how you want. There really are no rules but one.
If you have questions about any of this, please do contact me.
Awen Clement is an experienced, independent civil celebrant and pagan priest based in Birmingham in the West Midlands. Through this blog she hopes to offer you ideas, inspiration and comfort around planning weddings, handfastings, baby namings and funeral services.